The “E-motion/Motion” feedback loop – What will you get from this article?

Is this FOR you?

By the end of this article, you will have:

Unlocked one of your most unconscious body language patterns: the “E-motion/Motion feedback” loop.

Discovered how to take charge & manage your thoughts, mood & feelings using that “E-motion/Motion” effect.

Mastered how to leverage it for instant confidence, communicate vibrant charisma, and also have people around you unconsciously making you feel even more confident.

Leverage the power of social dynamics to enhance your high power stance: this is the virtuous cycle of SELF-PROJECTION to SOCIAL REPUTATION.

Is this like YOU?

� Have you ever had thoughts or feelings that got you:
– Feeling nervous or anxious before something important?
– Got into thoughts that almost freaked yourself out? This is by thinking about what might happen next.
If so, would you like to know an easy technique to get rid of them?

� Would it be useful for you to pick up one of the fundamentals of empowerment in body language?

� Simply put, would you like to learn how to switch from a bad mood to radiating confidence, warmth & charisma?

What will you learn?

You will learn about the “E-motion/Motion” feedback loop, specifically:
– What it does to you & how it impacts you mentally & socially.
– How to leverage that “E-motion/Motion” feedback loop for performance, self-assurance, and allure.

You will also learn how to enhance your high power feeling with the cycle of SELF-PROJECTION to SOCIAL REPUTATION.

Reminder – Why learn this?

With this knowledge, you would be in an improved position to:
Gear yourself toward the impact & results that you want
Increase your well-being & self-confidence
Manage any unwanted thoughts or behaviour steeming from your PRIMAL mind (Emotional brain)

E-motion brings motion !

Recap previous article – The “E-motion/Motion” looping effect

As exposed in this previous article, we have seen and understood that:

Your emotions have an impact on your motions:

The opposite happens too, your motion has an impact on your emotions:

Your “Motion” can dictate your “E-motion”

The reciprocity between your emotions & motions leads to the below looping effect:

All this is articulated in detail in this article.

With conscious use of the “E-motion/Motion” looping effect, now you can:
Get rid of unwanted emotions & moods
Decide if you want to feel confident, happy, intimidating…
Choose how you can be perceived by others

Snap out it: Get rid of unwanted moods & emotion

Do you feel & show insecurity or confidence?

Realise that certain poses and postures are expressions of inner feelings of confidence or insecurity.

In body language, these are labelled as “high-power” or “low-power”.

Notice how the following postures are “high power postures“, these are indeed expressions of feelings of high self-confidence, strength, and energy.

While the postures below are “low power postures“, these express feelings of awkwardness, powerlessness, fatigue shyness, insecurity, and timidity.

By adopting a different or opposite posture of what you are feeling, you can feel them less strongly, you can even override any unwanted feelings.

Any unwanted moods & disempowering feelings can be reduced by adopting a high-power posture.

Simply put, get in charge of your feelings by literally “picking yourself up”.

Openness, confidence, warmth, romance, and friendliness … can be felt and communicated if judged to be useful. Do bear in mind that social calibration is key.

This means that you can also use your body, face, and gestures for changing to how you want to feel.

Override any unwanted mood & disempowering feeling by picking yourself up with a high-power posture.

“Take” it to make it: Decide how you want to feel

As your motion (body, face & gesture) is linked to your emotions, through the looping effect you can take on the gesture, posture, and facial expression that you want to feel.

This can be done via the D.A.F sequence (Decide – Act – Feel):
1 – Decide: Which emotion you want to feel?
2 – Act: Move & make motion according to your chosen emotion
3 – Feel: Allow yourself to embrace the feeling of the emotion that you chose

→ D.A.F: Decide, Act & Feel

Overly simplistically put, “take” it to feel it!

Switch it: Feel confident, happy, or intimidating

Below are examples of postures and gestures that you can adopt in order to feel in those ways.

These are empowering postures that can alleviate any unwanted feelings & moods: stressed, upset, scared, …. and switch yourself into attitudes you’d like to feel.

Switch it to feel it!

Note : Self-awareness & social awareness are necessary
As much as these poses can be done when alone and with others, it is key to have:
Self-awareness to notice your emotions
Social awareness so that you can calibrate your poses according to the social context & power dynamics.

→ All of this is explained in the “Emotional Intelligence” course.

Take charge of your feelings by taking charge of your posture

The POWER of SELF-PROJECTION to SOCIAL REPUTATION

Leverage social proof

By leveraging social dynamics, You can increase your chosen feeling or attitude/mood.

Simply put, whatever you have chosen to feel, you can increase that feeling thanks to the input of others, this means feeling more confidence or any other high-power feeling: Warmth, charisma, strength…

This is a virtuous and sequential circle that starts with:

– Step 1: Your self-PERCEPTION
You consciously signal a high-power attitude when alone and/or with others.
→ Your self-perception (you)

– Step 2: Your self-PROJECTION
You maintain it so that the people around you will perceive it.
→ Your self-projection (you & others)

– Step 3: Your social PERCEPTION
You keep and stay steady with your projected high-power attitude until others unconsciously perceive it.
→ Your social perception (you & others)

– Step 4: Your social REPUTATION
Over time your projected high-power attitude will become their norm with you, and they will reflect it to you, this is the power of social dynamics.
→ Your social reputation (others & you)

This sequence set the positive cycle of projection & reputation!

Simply put:
“How you treat yourself becomes how others treat you”

Calibration & consistency is key

The importance & impact of CALIBRATION

Calibration remains CRITICAL when dealing with social interactions, this means that you would want to signal cues that are relevant and appropriate to the situation.

A counter-example is shouting when talking to a friend in the quiet section of a library, it is not appropriate to that context.

Calibration can be improved over time with practice and experimentation.

The importance of CONSISTENCY

When doing so with people who ALREADY know you, it is most likely to take more time. As it might be necessary for them to adjust. This is because of the existing social dynamics amongst you. With new people, the adjustment period would be much shorter and even take a very short moment.

In both cases, it is up to you to calibrate your attitude and maintain it.

Social dynamics & time

What is social dynamic?

Social dynamics is the observation and assessment of the interaction between a person and other individuals or groups. When meeting new people, most of us set up social dynamics unconsciously: Who influences whom? Who leads and who follows whom? Who respects and who abuses whom?

Examples of social dynamics
– The manager & employee relationship
– The older sibling leading the younger siblings
– The bullies bullying the bullied

The importance & impact of TIME with CALIBRATION

As mentioned previously, social dynamics are very important when using the power of SELF-PROJECTION to SOCIAL PERCEPTION.

When leveraging your SELF-PROJECTION for SOCIAL REPUTATION, you might receive pushback from people with whom you have an existing social dynamic.

This is because they already know you!
They might not expect anything different from what they already know of you.

Therefore, the social perception and adjustment, from a low to a high-power attitude, might take more time.

An example: A bullied person staying or changing schools
If a bullied person stays in the same school and decides to adopt a high-power postures, more than likely that person will get a big pushback from the existing bullies.
While in a new school and with new people, the other students might received more openly the high power signalling as the social dynamic aren’t yet set.
→ This example is as relevant to all social circles as all social circles are conditionned by social dynamics.

Due to the complexity of social dynamics, calibrating your high-power signalling & staying consistent with it is even more crucial.

Enjoyed this article & curious to take it to the next level?

Realise that this article is an extract from the fundamentals of the Social Intelligence & Emotional Intelligence workshops.

These workshops are transformative blends of relaxation, mind management & communication tools & techniques. 

Designed to release your best, these workshops will deliver you the methods to :
Become more relaxed & reduce your stress
Be in charge of your emotions & increase your well-being
Develop your leadership & influence

→ For any questions about these workshops, you can schedule your FREE discovery call to find out more.

Up until next time, go learn & go RELEASE YOUR BEST !!!