Your COMFORT zone is the foundation for learning any new skills or becoming familiar with any new situations and contexts.

Breakthrough your comfort zone – What will you get from this article?

Is this FOR you?

By the end of this article, you will have:

☑️ Understood the emotional nature of your COMFORT zone.

☑️ Grasped how your COMFORT zone is helping you; and yet how it is not fulfilling you.

☑️ Discovered all the necessary & chronological steps for leaving your COMFORT zone.

☑️ Grabbed a success-proof process, with sequential phases to leave your COMFORT & attain mastery of a new skill, and also build COMFORT with that new situation or interaction.

☑️ Raised your awareness of all the emotional stages; and challenges that you will encounter with mastering that new skill set.
Examples:
– Getting out of poverty by learning how to earn money.
– Escape from bullying by learning how to defend yourself through martial arts.

⚠️ Note:
This also means that when you will master the emotional stages involved with learning that new skill, this can ease your learning which can ultimately improve your situation.

Is this like YOU?

� Have you ever been:
– Stucked in that “COMFORT zone”? Meaning not willing to take risks? Or not even trying anything new?
– Avoiding new experiences?
– Taking action eventually and eventually shortly giving up?
– Not following through, especially when the “going” gets tough?`

� Would it be useful for you to:
– Discover our universal human nature when we face challenges?
– Find out if you fall into that universal behavioural pattern?

� Would like you to pick up the “emotional roadmap” when:
– Developing and mastering a new skill set?
– Becoming comfortable with a new situation or interaction?

What will you learn?

You will learn about your “COMFORT zone”, specifically:
– What it is?
– How it works?
– What does it do to you?
– How to get out of it?
– Lastly, how to become comfortable with something that is currently “uncomfortable”?
→ This means building NEW COMFORT with the uncomfortable.

Reminder – Why learn this?

With this knowledge, you would be in an improved position to:
✔ Gear yourself toward the impact & results that you want
✔ Increase your well-being & self-confidence
✔ Manage any unwanted thoughts or behaviour stemming from your PRIMAL mind (Emotional brain – See this article for information on your emotional brain)

E-motion brings motion !

❓How good you are you at leaving your COMFORT zone❓

Your story is the same as mine:
The universal human drive tied to your COMFORT zone

DISCLAIMER:
Only for the purpose of illustration, I will mention my journey to illustrate how you and I are the same, how we are both driven by the same universal human drive.

You and all of us had a mentor. And yes, I can tell you my life, I’ll tell you a few nuggets of knowledge only to make that point.

When I was 17 years old, I learned how to do Taekwondo.

At 25, I worked in retail, fashion retail for Yves St-Laurent and a few other designers, so I learnt how to dress.

A few years down the line, at 30 years of age, I wanted a bit of muscle, so I started training with a PT.

With a bit of muscle, just a little bit, at 35 I wanted to get a grip on my emotions. To the point that I had a few different mentors who taught me about emotional intelligence, neuro-linguistic programming and a few other topics that get that grip on my emotions.

But now all these stories and including your own stories, with your current abilities: speaking, driving or whatever that you’re so good to do.

� What do your experiences and my experiences have in common? �

My experience and all your experiences, what do they have in common?

✔ The willingness to LEARN & GROW.

→ How do you grow & learn?

For a lot of us, when we want to learn and grow, we all have this nice and cosy COMFORT zone. And we are all inclined to stay up there.

But, how do you get outside of that COMFORT zone? As outside of it, is threatening.

Well, realise that:

Learning, and growing is a PROCESS.

� How do you get the willingness to learn & grow?�

The emotion that ties you to your COMFORT zone

In green, this is your COMFORT zone.

Notice above the name are the emotion that most people would feel, what is the main feeling there?

As you see there, it’s comforting, its main feeling is SAFETY.

⚠️ Note:
Staying in your COMFORT zone can fulfil your need for “Familiarity/Safety”, this is a necessary emotional need as highlighted in this article about your PRIMAL mind.

That need for COMFORT (Familiarity/Safety’) can be developing familiarity with:
– People
– Culture
– Faces
– Places
– Topics & knowledge
– Know-how & literacy: skills/competency
– Environment

Examples of safety with travelling:
– Someone may NOT travel abroad alone due to unknown factors and causing the person to feel unsafe.

– While another person can travel to faraway lands and can feel safe in the hotel, or plane as that person may have already done (familiarity) many trips alone. It now feels comfortable for that person to do it again and again!

→ Anything known can go FOR your innate need for “Familiarity/Safety”.
→ Anything UN-known can AGAINST your innate need for “Familiarity/Safety”.

Get out of the COMFORT zone

But why do you want to get out of there? Why?

It’s on you!

Simply because your needs are not met, in your COMFORT you are unfulfilled.

Example of unfulfilled needs with my story:

– When I was 17, I felt weak. I didn’t know how to fight.
– At 25, I didn’t know how to dress up.
– When I was 30, I didn’t know how to have a strong body.
– And lastly, I didn’t have a grip on my emotions before I became an emotional trainer.

If you don’t get outside your COMFORT zone, you are already unhappy and this is on YOU already!

If you stay in your COMFORT zone, realise that some of your others needs are not met.

So, what do you do to get outside of your comfort zone?

From COMFORT to MASTERY (NEW COMFORT zone)

🔔 REMINDER:
The words on top of each zone are the emotions that most people feel when going through each zone.

� What does emotion do to you? �

E-motion brings motion.

So from that SAFETY, your “needs are unmet, unfulfilled and ACTION” is taken, consequently & next is the STUCK zone.

COMFORT to the STUCK zone

In the STUCK ZONE, you would feel stuck and along with it, you feel PAIN.

One of the reasons for that PAIN is that you don’t know what to do and it hurts.

And this is when maybe when a mentor can share that knowledge. And yet, it is still hard, it hurts.

The PAIN can also be fear, exasperation, or resentment.

A way out can be with the process of “rationalise & force yourself” through the next zone.

⚠️ Note on rationalisation:
There are many ways to rationalise, it is all articulated in the emotional intelligence workshop.

One way to rationalise is to remember that you’re unhappy as your needs are not met.

So whatever you do, you do it for you.

So do you really want that need to be met?

Example of unfulfilled needs with my story:
– Do you want to know how to fight? (Taekwondo)
– Do you want to know how to dress up? (Fashion jobs)
– Do you want that body and strength? (Gym)

It’s up to you to meet your needs.

If you do want it, then push through that STUCK zone by reminding yourself to meet your need.

So whatever you do, you do it for you.

STUCK to the LEARNING zone

You are now in the LEARNING zone, where your mentor is even more important.

But here the main emotion here is FRUSTRATION. In the LEARNING zone, you do get frustrated.

So, what do you do for the next step?!
→ You “execute & commit” yourself to that process.

How do you do that?

Your mentor can eventually help you because that person is qualified to have the process, behaviour, habits and beliefs for that success.

Example of unfulfilled needs with my story:
– So, for example, I learned taekwondo, the guy was a master at Taekwondo, so he taught me, he has a track record.

After you “execute & commit“, this process leads you to your own MASTERY:
→ Your new comfort zone.

LEARNING to MASTERY (NEW COMFORT zone)

Example of unfulfilled needs with my story:
Writing this article, delivering workshops on emotional intelligence was uncomfortable, even very uncomfortable.

Yet through time, through practice, through remembering that this is for my needs to be met and it is also fulfilling my purpose.

I rationalised it, I forced through it and execute it as we speak!

And I am still committed to it, so that now, this becomes my NEW comfort zone.

So, whatever you want you to do, whatever you want to learn.

Remember, it is all about your needs & what you want.

It is all for YOU & only for YOU.
So take action, rationalise, force it through, execute and commit!

Enjoyed this article & curious to take it to the next level?

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These workshops are transformative blends of relaxation, mind management & communication tools & techniques. 

Designed to release your best, these workshops will deliver you the methods to :
✔ Become more relaxed & reduce your stress
✔ Be in charge of your emotions & increase your well being
✔ Develop your leadership & influence

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Up until next time, go learn & go RELEASE YOUR BEST !!!